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Marauder Junior, Thane of Fife

Remember last entry, when I said "The reality that I actually have to push out this kid in another few weeks is setting in"? Well, now it appears I'm not going to be pushing Marauder Junior out at all, because s/he is still in a breech position at 36 weeks and unless s/he manages to flip, it looks like I'm having a C-section. This is going to be my first major surgery ever, so I'm a little freaked out by the idea.

Disadvantages of C-section:

- they have to actually cut me open!
- I can't drive for two weeks afterwards
- I can't lift stuff over ten pounds for six weeks afterwards (this will be an issue if Marauder Junior grows really fast)
- can't eat before surgery and it's scheduled for late morning, which means I'll probably be hungry
- scar on abdomen
- will have to figure out "second C-section vs. VBAC" issues with Marauder Junior Two someday
- what if it gets infected?
- what if if gets infected and I have to have a hysterectomy?
- OMG WHAT IF I DIE

Advantages of C-section:

- possibility of Marauder Junior being born on September 11 is now off the table
- don't have to push (I've had Braxton-Hicks contractions twice and both times were painful)
- extended hospital stay means all early visitors will show up when I'm still in the hospital, and I don't feel obligated to clean the house ahead of time
- whole thing should be over with in three to four hours start to finish
- Marauder Junior can skip the cone-shaped head phase
- will be around lactation consultants once milk comes in
- didn't really have the whole "birth plan" worked out yet anyway, so it's not like I'm one of those people who was all set on a natural birth in water (or whatever) and this ruined it
- it's kind of a relief to have a lot of the uncertainty taken out of the whole thing

I'm trying not to spend too much time dwelling on it, which isn't hard to do because there's still so much stuff to get done around here before Marauder Junior shows up.

Comments

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lls_mutant
Aug. 19th, 2014 05:30 pm (UTC)
If it makes you feel better, I had a C-section with both my kids- planned with Trevor (my younger) and unplanned with Toby (my older). My experience:

1.) An unplanned C-section after 8 hours of labor SUCKS. The planned C-section was much easier, and while it wasn't my favorite activity, it was a lot better than the second time around.

2.) Toby was 8 pounds when I had him. I never had any issues with carrying either of my kids. I couldn't carry them in their carrier, because of the added weight of the carrier, but that didn't end up being a big deal since I couldn't drive, either.

3.) The first week I did NOT feel like going out anyway. Not being able to drive didn't get annoying until later.

4.) As far as the scar, ask your OB about that. Most women I know have a horizontal scar. It goes right over the pubic hair area, right where lower cut (aka not granny panties) underwear would hit. As I am not into skimpy bikinis or thongs, I literally would never wear any article of clothing that would show my scar, because it's so low. Since you're dealing with a breech, that might be different, but there's a good chance it's not.

5.) Of everyone I know personally who had C-sections, no one had to undergo an infection.

6.) At least where I live, doctors prefer doing a C-section, I think. I suspect they feel like there is actually less risk to it. This does mean that having a VBAC may be difficult for you- if a VBAC is something you want to consider, it can be a fight. Also, if you do want a VBAC (or even think you might want a VBAC), make sure you tell your doctor. For certain incisions, a VBAC isn't too risky. But if they make the incision a certain way it can be extremely ill-advised. If they know your wishes, they can try to make it possible.

Overall, my experience with C-sections has been positive. Childbirth is not fun regardless (I don't care what anyone says!), but afterwards, what I felt most strongly is that my kids made it here and everyone is healthy and safe. Childbirth is scary either way, but C-sections are quite safe these days, and I have to say my planned C-section was a MUCH more pleasant than my emergency one. Recovery from a planned C-section is a lot quicker than from an emergency one, and if you do need to go that way, just focus on the positives.

Other advantages of a C-section:

-Good excuse to get other people to do the laundry for a few weeks

-Planning is nice. We went out to a super nice dinner the night before and relaxed at a hotel, and it was a good way to enjoy the last little bit of adult time before the baby came.

-Epidurals/blocks really do work.

-No tearing! If you haven't gotten them, less chance of hemorrhoids! Babies do terrible things to your nether regions when you push them out.

-When your four year old asks how babies get out and you're not sure you want to tell them (even though you've always sworn you'd be biologically honest and you use correct terms, but you know your kid talks WAY too much and you're afraid other parents will get mad at you if their kid comes home spouting talk about vaginas, even though you know THEY'RE being totally irrational), you can just say that the doctor cut you open and took the baby out. It does make things a little easier.

A couple other disadvantages:

-Percoset. It might be really nice at first, but it definitely is hard to get off. Not super hard, but hard enough.

-No baths until the stitches are out.

In the end, you're going to do awesome, however you have this baby, and what you'll remember even just six months later is that the baby is here and safe, and so are you :) Good luck!!!!
marauderthesn
Aug. 19th, 2014 08:48 pm (UTC)
My doctor says the scar is going to be horizontal; the hospital I'm having Marauder Junior in doesn't do VBACs, but I could always switch hospitals with a second kid if I fit the criteria for a VBAC. Glad to hear no one you know has ever had an infection from a C-section. Intellectually, I know things are probably going to be fine, but I've been anxious on and off this whole pregnancy because A) they took me off my medications and B) I started bleeding at thirteen weeks and had to go to the ER to see if I was having a miscarriage, which was the single most terrifying experience of my life. I think things will improve once Marauder Junior is out and I can see that s/he's okay at any given moment, though. :) Thanks.
magic_at_mungos
Aug. 19th, 2014 06:06 pm (UTC)
Good luck with Marauder Jnr.

If you want a natural birth/avoid major surgery, I hope they turn soon. </p>

Best wishes for the birth and early days with the babba. (I can't advise with regard the merits of a natural birth vs a c section especially in the USA as a non parent) but all the close people on my life who have given birth have had mixed experiences (but they have all been in the UK) and the potential breach births have turned at the last minute

marauderthesn
Aug. 19th, 2014 08:52 pm (UTC)
I've been doing some positioning stuff to try to get Marauder Junior to flip, but I'm not sure if s/he has enough room to do it. We'll have to see.

Thanks. :)
aome
Aug. 20th, 2014 02:47 am (UTC)
I have long concluded there is NO easy way to bring a baby into your family. There's painful labor, there's C-section with recovery, there's whatever physical issues you may have had to deal with during pregnancy, there's a billion miles of red tape for adoption, there may be international travel involved with adoption, there may be court dates for domestic adoption - basically, try not to sweat it. No matter how Junior shows up in your family, you're going to have to put in some work SOMEWHERE, so just consider this a trade off, and do your best to look past this to the moment the baby is in your arms. At least this way, it's not being sprung on you at the last moment.

PS: Having had five colonoscopies, all of which require clear fluids only for a full day beforehand, and nothing at all the day of - you can live with the short-term hunger. It's annoying, but you'll have a lot of other stuff on your mind that day, I suspect. ;-) It really isn't that hard to deal with.
marauderthesn
Aug. 20th, 2014 01:36 pm (UTC)
I have long concluded there is NO easy way to bring a baby into your family.

Yeah, I'm quickly reaching the same conclusion! :D

Eek, five colonoscopies. Glad to hear the "not eating" part is tolerable. :)
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