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Okay, not going to go into the circumstances that prompted this post, but...it is not okay to engage in stereotyping about only children and then claim that you can do that because you yourself are an only child. Having said that, it is extremely not okay to engage in stereotyping about only children and claim you can do that because you yourself are an only child when it turns out that you're not actually an only child, but consider yourself one because your only sibling is significantly older than you.

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aome
May. 8th, 2014 11:39 pm (UTC)
Ok, I'm not about to claim any particular "only child" stereotypes, but I do consider myself to have been essentially raised as an only child because my older brother (3 years older) was severely disabled and was institutionalized when I was a baby. Was I an only child? No, and he definitely still had an effect on my life - we'd visit occasionally, and I felt the need to be "good" since my brother was the who needed help, and of course there were issues when he died shortly after my 16th birthday. But I was the only child in the house, the only one who got birthday parties, the only one who went on vacation, the only one who needed playdates or to be driven to after-school activities, the only one who needed help with homework, the only one who was available to help with household chores.

And if someone had a significantly older sibling, someone who was, perhaps, out of the house very early on (friend of mine - his youngest brother was only 5 or 6 at the point that he had the house to himself because the older two were both off to college, and then moved out entirely and got jobs), then I can see how that younger sib might have had a day-to-day life that was very similar, even if holidays or perhaps vacations and other special events brought all the sibs back together again.

My 2 knuts. But then, I'm not claiming to BE an only child, only that I was essentially raised as one, and know a family with the much-younger-sib who had a similar childhood.
marauderthesn
May. 11th, 2014 09:44 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think it's different when A) you're claiming you actually are an only child, and you don't mention until it comes out in later conversation that you really aren't one, and B) you're using your supposed status as an only child to be stereotypical about only children, claiming that because you're an "only child," you know what you're talking about.

I'm sorry about your brother.
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